tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956662705226022741.post1754863391762063036..comments2024-02-28T00:49:36.631-08:00Comments on Play At Home Mom LLC: Its Playtime!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956662705226022741.post-59662935264131019262011-11-12T07:22:22.901-08:002011-11-12T07:22:22.901-08:00this is great...I did ABA/VB programs and then lat...this is great...I did ABA/VB programs and then later RDI so I have been working on steering myself from the take charge with tons of suggestions...still really love RDI methods which is parent steered without being pushy or quizzing over and over...favorite part of RDI is the basic guide/apprentice relationship....just love learning multiple ways to approach parenting...being a mommy teaches us so much..I used to think I knew type of parent I would be until I actually became a MOMMYAshleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12012064519490236302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956662705226022741.post-62598255591790319442011-07-04T22:34:38.176-07:002011-07-04T22:34:38.176-07:00My daughter does this. She will be 3 on Wednesday....My daughter does this. She will be 3 on Wednesday. I am told "Mommy Do, Mommy Do" over and over and over and over.... and if its not exactly right, there is often a melt-down. I often ask her how to do it. I will even tell her that I don't know how but she does and to show me. And I really really encourage her to try things on her own. When she does do something (even if its not perfect or how she thinks it would turn out) I give lots of praise and say things like "You did it, yaaaay Charlotte, I knew you could, you must be so proud" etc. OH and sometimes I WILL do it myself and just start pretending, laugh when things go wrong, and act like I'm having so much fun that she sometimes can't resist and will join in (but other times she won't). I hope this is helpful!!Anna Kauzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08838016582701062014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956662705226022741.post-22112980287837666142011-07-04T12:30:34.718-07:002011-07-04T12:30:34.718-07:00When I work with children in the play room who wan...When I work with children in the play room who want things "perfect" and/or want me to do it for them I often employ the "whisper" to help me get them in the driver's seat. It might be worth trying; next time she asks you to participate you can agree, then whisper, "what should I do?" and let her show you. Keep encouraging her with whispers, "like this?...now what?" etc. This isn't to say you shouldn't join in the fun, we certainly want to join in the fun and it's a great way to connect with them. But if they're showing signs of discouragement it may be that they need some encouragement in ways that are different from the encouragement they are receiving. ~abPlay At Home Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06599136315886177089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956662705226022741.post-87737348987427110602011-07-03T21:27:07.086-07:002011-07-03T21:27:07.086-07:00Love this! But I have a question... my 3yo often *...Love this! But I have a question... my 3yo often *insists* that I take over when she's creating something (drawing, coloring, building with blocks) because she says she *can't* do it. I try to offer to do it together (teamwork) rather than just doing it for her when she refuses to create on her own, but she'll have a near melt-down if it doesn't come out *right*. Is this a typical 3yo thing (that she has an idea in her head and is unable to create it in her mental image so she looks for help) or do you have any advice for me to help her open up and explore her own creativity without a right/wrong view. I've always said that she can draw/color/build such and such in any way she wants to and praise everything that she creates, so I'm not sure where the right/wrong thing came from other than her own head.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4956662705226022741.post-60686212096749804582011-06-28T19:01:48.786-07:002011-06-28T19:01:48.786-07:00This is so helpful and sooo true!. I actually post...This is so helpful and sooo true!. I actually posted on my own blog last week about a night I just didn't FEEL like playing, but pulled it together to be present for my son. He was happy, and of course began playing independently, allowing me to sit back a bit on a rough night when I needed a little space.<br /><br />Thanks for posting!OhanaMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787769897860966372noreply@blogger.com